Love Is A Decision

(If you have read a Francis Kong book, chances are you will never leave the book without finishing it. He is one of the brilliant writers we have today. He is funny and smart and writes like the kind that'll make you feel he is talking right in your face. This is one example. And I thought of sharing this one to all married women like me. Taken from his blog FrancisKong.com.)

Ever heard of the Seven Ages of the Married Cold?

Here’s how it operates:

During the 1st year of marriage, everything was still so hot and romantic–The husband says, “Oh, sweetie pie, I’m really worried about those nasty sniffles you have! There’s no telling what that could turn into with all the germs that’s been going around.

2nd year–”Listen, honey, I don’t like the sound of that cough. I called the doc and he’s going to stop by here and take a look at you. Why don’t you just go on to bed and get the rest you need?”

3rd year–”Maybe you better go lie down, darling. When you feel lousy you need the rest. I’ll bring you something–do we have any canned soup around here?”

4th year–”No sense wearing yourself out when you’re under the weather. When you finish those dishes and the kids’ baths and get them to bed, you ought to go to bed yourself!”

5th year–”Why don’t you take a couple aspirin?”

6th year–”You oughta go gargle or something, instead of sitting around barking like a dog!”

7th year–”For Pete’s sake, stop sneezing. Are you trying to give me pneumonia? You’d better pick up some tissues while you’re at the store.”

If your marriage relationship doesn’t have a destination, how will you know when you arrive? And why wait for love to materialize out of stardust, when you could choose excitement and romance – now?

The secret formula:

1. Making your spouse feel truly honored 2. Learning the art of touching – tenderly 3. Keeping courtship alive in your marriage 4. Re-opening a heart closed by anger 5. Building – or rebuilding – trust in a relationship 6. Becoming best friends with your family

Love is not an emotion, love is not a feeling, love is not happen-stance. Love is a Decision. Love is waking up every day committed to honoring your mate. If you want to have a great relationship, guess what, it’s up to you.

They say that marriages are made in heaven, but God leaves the maintenance to men.

(...oh how I wish I can live up to what I said here..)

{Repost from Francis Kong.Com}